Based on a True Story; When Alex Chivescu’s Foster Family Fell Apart, He Knew that in Order to Stay in the High School He Loved, He Had to Find a New Mom and Dad.
“I’m sure you’ve never received a letter like this before, but I want to make several things clear…I pay for myself, find my own scholarships, get myself a job,” began the letter from 17-year-old Alex Chivescu whose successful search for new foster parents comes to life in the Hallmark Movie Channel Original Premiere, “Finding a Family,” Saturday, October 15 (8 p.m. ET/PT, 7C). Emmy® Award winning actress and two-time Golden Globe nominee Kim Delaney (“NYPD Blue,” “Army Wives”), newcomer Jared Abrahamson, Sarah-Jane Redmond (“Life Unexpected”) and Paul McGillion (“Stargate: Atlantis”) all star in the film produced by Emmy® nominated Tom Patricia of “Homeless to Harvard: The Liz Murray Story.”
The film is based on the true story of Alex Chivescu, a ward of the state of Michigan, who knowing he cannot be emancipated from the foster care system, searches for a new mom and dad within the school district that he believes can fulfill his lifelong dream of attending an Ivy League university.
Alex (Abrahamson) has a passion for learning, instilled by his loving single mother, Ileana (Delaney) who has a doctorate degree and speaks six languages. When Alex was 10-years-old, Ileana had a life-altering car crash that left her struggling with bouts of anger and depression, so much so that a family court judge deemed her unfit to parent Alex further. Thus began Alex’s revolving door through the foster care system. His one constant is school. When Alex’s transportation funding ends, he discovers he’s about to be assigned to a foster family outside the school district that can provide stability and a curriculum that can get him into an Ivy League university. Alex is left with only one option: in order to avoid being assigned outside the high school he loves, he must find a new mom and dad. After reading Alex’s passionate plea to find a new family, Jim (McGillion) and Suzanne (Redmond) step forward to offer the brainy teenager “the full family deal.” Alex Chivescu is now a student at Harvard University.
“Finding a Family” is an Entertainment One Television production in association with Randolph Films. Tom Patricia, Ira Pincus, John Morayniss, Noreen Halpern, Mary Martin are the executive producers. Kim Delaney and Margaret O’Brien are co-executive producers. Randolph Cheveldave is the producer. Mark Jean directed from a script by Pamela Wallace.
“It’s not something I revisit often, and then to see it portrayed was very emotional roller coaster-esque, certainly, with my experience,” Alex recalls during a Sunday evening’s break from his heavy workload as Harvard sophomore, majoring in economics.
He’s cute and young — still only 20 — with dark hair, a warm smile, and an engagingly frequent, perhaps just slightly nervous laugh. And nearly-perfect SAT scores. No wonder when he wrote his letters reaching out to prospective foster parents, people responded.
Alex came to the U.S. from his native Romania with his parents as an infant. His mother was a multi-lingual college professor, a devoted single mom after her divorce when Alex was two — until her life was shattered by an automobile accident. The crash left her with a brain injury that caused her to become severely bipolar, doctors said. She was sometimes abusive. Alex essentially became the parent through most of grade school, attempting to care for his mom and himself through her rages and despondency, through evictions and police visits. Aiming to gain control of his own life, as a teen he went to court to terminate her legal parental rights.
“I remember thinking when I saw a picture of Kim, ‘This is a very pretty woman, I’m sure she’s very nice’ — and she was, like, really nice when I met her in person,” Alex recalls. “But then when I saw her doing one of the scenes, and she had all her makeup done and she was fully in character, I was so taken away by how much she looked like my mom, and how much she reminded me of her — that was actually probably the most difficult moment, seeing Kim playing and re-enacting different parts. It was, you know, certainly more vivid than much of my memory is in recalling these events.”
Alex says that his first thought, when he was approached about the movie, was “Wow.” His inspiring story had already landed him on the CBS news and in publications including The Detroit Free Press. But he says he thought his 15 minutes of fame had come and gone, “and now I could get back to my normal life.”
A film, of course, would take things to a whole different level, with “a much more permanent place in the cultural medium,” he notes. “I was very interested and excited. I wanted to see what the proposal would be, what the project would look like. I had to think about whether this was really right for me, right for my mom, my family, my foster family. That was a tough choice, but I decided to go ahead because I thought, and I still think, that it’s a worthwhile story to tell.”
His life now revolves around Harvard, includes a prestigious internship in New York, lots of friends, his foster family and, yes, his mother.
“She’s still fairly ill, unfortunately,” he replies, asked about her status today. “She’s still in denial about much of what has happened, including her needs for her health, really, but fortunately, now that I’m an adult, I’ve taken a more proactive role in her care. I’m doing a lot more in terms of trying to manage her day-to-day and make sure she’s got the social support she needs — I guess just being there for her in a way that I was not able to when I was younger. As a kid, as a 16 or 17-year-old kid, not only did I have very little comprehension of what I needed to do, but nobody was going to give me authority to try to take care of her affairs.
“I have a pretty good relationship with her now,” he adds. “We talk fairly regularly, but she’s still having a lot of challenges, and we’ll always have a lot of issues to work through. But then, she’ll always be my mom.”
How does she feel about the movie? “I discussed it with her a couple of times, but like I said, she’s still fairly ill, still in denial, so I — if you asked her point blank, ‘Is there a movie being made about what happened?’ I don’t know if she could answer that question.”
As for his foster parents, Jim and Suzanne Bante, “My foster family has given me very free rein with the movie. I think they’re excited to see it.”
Alex admits he had concerns about the limitations of telling his life story within an hour and a half framework, knowing it had to be condensed and simplified. “Obviously, there’s a lot of melding of characters and events,” he observes, “but I have to say that in spirit if nothing else, the movie is definitely pretty true to form.”
He thinks about the film having a positive impact on others who are going through times of struggle. “My biggest hope is that they take away the real message from the story, which is one of overcoming adversity on your own terms. It’s sort of taking a long hard look at what your problems are, and what you can do to solve them. I saw that situation at home getting worse, and I did what I could do to fix it, to the extent I could. I couldn’t make my mom better. Goodness knows I tried. I mean, that was something out of my control, and once I accepted that, I had to figure out what I could control, what I had the power to change in my life,” he says. “That’s what I took full rein of, and just charged off.”
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Dear Alex,
out of all the movies of true life, this story touched the heart and soul of me. It was more than watching a movie on tv, it was waiting to see and hear what was next. Since yesterday I have watched it three time, each time getting something new that I missed the first time. I am a pre-school instructor in Prichard Al. I have a new tru story to tell my three year olds tomorrow when I return to school, hopefully I wil;l inject your childhood moments into their lives, and instill in you what your mom instilled in you, that learning is something you reach for and nver set limits on learning. Thanks for sharing with the world your stories.
Best success in your endeavors and your future, may you always have Angels guiding and protecting you. YOU KEEP YOUR PROMISE.
The only thing a young person can do is wish for education and learning and understanding and most of all believe in themselves and cross your fingers and wish for a well life.
Remarkable and amazing and hard life is and when you grow up and have to face stresses and tention and frustrations and have to move pass everything and do the best you can each and every day and be thankful for the little things in life.
Alex, you are inspirational! Your Mother loved you dearly when she was functioning…..and I believe that gave you great strength! I wish ALL children could feel that love early in theirs lives….you never forget that kind of total acceptance. You are blessed and you are tough…Congrats! Be proud of yourself and enjoy your life….you will perform great deeds! Loved the movie…can’t wait to find out when it airs again so I can tape it!
I was so touched by your story, I cried all through the movie and had a terrible head ach from crying, but this story is so touching, I wish this story or movie reaches Africa where I am from. There are many children who would benefit and find courage and strength to face life for the better. Thanks for sharing this story and I will for sure make it my duty to show this movie to children and youth I work with who are immigrants in Canada who I believe need that extra support to make it in life. Thanks again from the bottom of my heart, you have touched me in a different way.
impresionante istoria,bravo lui!!
He turned his back on his family then whined that he had to change school districts, showing zero respect for the fact that his entire formal education was provided by tax payers who were given no choice in? the matter. I guess it’s OK for him to betray his injured mother and assume a free ride? It’s OK to capture people and throw? them in jail if they don’t cough up the dough to hand over to him? Don’t forget the movie is a dramatization not detail accurate. What a jerk he is!
Alex at the time i watch your movie,I was move by your life story and tears couldn’t stop dropin now my eyes.I thank God for giving you that heart to keep a promise that you did not broke even though you pass through difficulties but,you kept your promise.I wish we most of the African had good forster parents like yours.There are kids like you in my country Liberia west Africa who lookin for help bt there is none so they prefer leavin school and findin their daily bread.I love your story and everything about you.wish to see you and talk with you.
Hi Alex, I love your story a lot that touched my heart to motivate me for my future.God bless you. I am one of Refugees in Thailand from Burma. you also give me encourage words ok. If you could help me to attend any school, call me 0843191573
Dear Alex.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with the world. I was moved and tears couldn’t stop flooding down my eyelids. It is hard for me to share with you what kind of situation am facing today. But your story has given me the strength to endure through.
Once again Alex, thank you very much. I wish I could talk with you personally.
Thank you Alex for sharing your story. I am sick too and my children just told me yesterday how I abused them. They said I use to put them out the house at 10 & 11 with no where to go. I promise you I do not remember. It is not denial we really do not recall. We are truly ill. No matter what she loves you. Please know she loves you & she is proud of you.You give me hope for my sons & although I can not remember the abuse you taught me to just acknowledge it & keeping trying to get better. Thank you!
I admire you for having the courage to want to make a life for you even as a teen. I work in the human services industry and know first hand that there are many failed systems in America designed to help kids. Laws and policy can be a real barrier to helping people. No matter what the real story is, rest knowing that you made the best decision for you and your mother. “No excuses” allowed. I hope this story is a model for all to follow. If we did, there would be a lot less troubled kids in America growing up to be troubled adults making excuses for their failures. Harvard is a place where you can make room to give back to others in your future. Best. Faye